Me and my comrades started Infinity with 3 people on 2012. 2019, we are 140+ people doing crazy stuffs or events. If you need some tips, lemme know..
your dangling something in front of people hoping they take a bite, sounds like luring to me. And from what i've seen every store/club/play group has a different opinion of what the asshole group is, for some its WarmaHordes, for others the RPG groups for others (presumably) the Infinity group, so while the ones you've met might be pricks most of the (non-competitive) ones i've met are generally quite lovely people.
I've been teaching @Indominus Rex how to play, talking about how 'one order' is a bit of time the camera in an action movie is following that model. And also, how if you're ever wondering about what to do in a game, go with whatever would look coolest.
I play the game like it's a cheesy 80s action SF movie. Complete with taking actions that "look cooler". ... 'course, I also don't WIN many games, but that's not especially relevant for me.